Five ways to improve your sex life.
By Eric Leech
Studies suggest that a good sex life helps men live a long, happy life. Of course, that could also be misconstrued to suggest that those who are healthier and happier just have more sex. Either way, if you’re going to go, you might as well go with a bang (pun intended). Let’s look at five areas that can improve your sex life just by following a few simple tips.
Exercise
Men know that exercise is good for them. Just how good it can be, you may not have realized. One of the theories about performance problems in men is that daily anxiety caused by work, women and worry produces stress hormones in the body, making it difficult to get in the mood. When you exercise regularly, you release the chemical oxytocin, which can have a calming effect on the body. When the body is relaxed, it is ready for sex.
Timing
While a man’s erectile problems can be improved by finding ways to relax his mind, some research suggests physical exertion may be more effective for women. When a woman engages in a vigorous activity, her blood flow increases, endorphins are released and she is more likely to feel like getting randy. Your only problem is that you have to work fast, as the research suggests your window is somewhere within 15 minutes of completion of a workout.
Empathy
Surveys suggest that 90 percent of men are quite satisfied with their sex lives (in other words, we’re having regular orgasms). However, only 50 percent of women have the same enthusiastic commentary. It’s not all us guys’ fault. These surveys also suggest that the women who know what feels good and vocalize that to their partners tend to be most satisfied. This means that a guy can encourage his partner to become more exploratory by practicing empathy (“How would this feel to her?”).
Monkey Read…Monkey Do
Studies suggest that men and women can prime themselves for sex. While a nudie magazine may be all a guy needs to s tart his engine, for women, romance novels hold the most promise, according to surveys. How much difference can reading about sex make? Well, according to these surveys, you may find yourself making love with your partner about 75 percent more often than you do now. If your partner is not in to romance novels, there is evidence that frequent fantasizing can have the same effect.
Making Out
The early years of sexual exploration bring fond memories for many guys. Even if your first experiences weren’t all that great, the exploration part probably made it better than it would have been. Busy men often bypass the experimental playfulness that used to lead to sex, settling for a quickie instead. Sexperts recommend getting in touch with those youthful memories by kissing and touching your partner with her clothes on. Trust me, she’ll be a whole different animal once they do come off!
Guilty Pleasures
An online survey reported that 50 percent of men and women who’ve abandoned their church also discovered greater sexual satisfaction. Not everybody in these surveys became happier. However, there was enough of a difference to perk some researcher’s attention. Now, this is not just an excuse to sleep in on Sunday mornings. Some guys just grow up feeling shameful about their sexuality. You don’t have to leave your religion to enjoy better sex. All you have to do is leave those guilty feelings behind.
Slippery When Wet
Better sex does come in a bottle, and I’m not talking about Viagra. One of the easiest ways to improve sex is to introduce some slippery stuff in to your intimate sessions. Surveys suggest the reason why many women find sex unpleasant is because their own lubrication is not enough to keep the motions smooth and pain-free. This is a fact of life that happens to women of all ages. The most recommended lube for all occasions is water-based.
